Hello, hello everyone !!! We are so sorry we are late in posting this much-loved, much awaited blogpost from our wedding anniversary series. So we have completed two years of our marriage and it has been amazing, humbling, confusing and very much entertaining. I hope you enjoy reading about our view on marriage after two years, as compared to after first year :
Being Married : First
year vs Completing Two years
Mr: First year of
marriage is like the beginning of spring when you see the flower buds around
and tend to them with utmost care. Second year is like when the buds bloom,
wherein, you actually get the first glimpse of the beautiful colour of the
flower/petal.
Mrs: In simpler
words, the first year is spent being so cautious, so careful with each other,
so loving, giving into all demands and tantrums and wishes and indulgences –
even simple things like asking him “What do you want to eat for dinner?” or “I’m
planning to make so and so, would you like that?”. Second year is more like, “I
made spinach for dinner, here’s your plate!” :-P
But other than understanding each other better than before,
there isn’t really any major change. I think, fundamentally, if you love each
other and have a great friendship, no obstacle is really big, no achievement
too small. End of the day, it’s that
invisible halo of contentment around us.
Also, unlike first year when we used to share funny/corny messages,
we now share health tips on Whatsapp :-/
Managing household
Mr: Chores still
remain the same as first year. Wake up your wife with a cup of tea. Prepare
breakfast while she’s lazing around. Come home from office at around 11.30 am
to cut the veggies for lunch, prepare lunch in the afternoon. Dinner is almost
soups and salads prepared by my loving wife. So evening is taken care of. Plus,
as a bonus gift from my wife this year, we finally have got a house help for
doing the dishes!! Ya ya!!
Mrs: Lies! Ok,
except the bed tea part. But everything else is a lie. I mean he speaks this
with so much conviction, that even our friends actually believe that this is what happens in our house! I am the
one who does the daily cooking in the house including breakfast, lunch and
dinner, unless he wants to cook something special, which is like once or twice
in a month only (given his super busy schedule). Also he’s never home on time
for meals, forget cooking! Ha! And I got a maid for dishes last year because I
started working again!
Who’s more organized?
Mr: Hahahahahaha..No comments ;)
Mrs: No comments
Who is a better cook?
Mr: Hoo hahahahhaha (Evil laugh)
Mrs: He does cook
well, but that doesn’t necessarily make him a ‘better’ cook. Indeed, he knows
more about food than me, but I like to think we work best as a team, and he
always usually likes what I cook.
Mr: Yeah… You
don’t even know what’s the difference between using kokam & aamchoor!!!
C’mon, don’t envy my culinary skills!!!
Surprising things
you’ve learnt about marriage
Mr: As per Hindu
traditions, before the wedding the Panditji
compares the Kundalis of the bride
and the groom for 36 qualities. This is what all guys are aware of. But what
they aren’t aware of is that out of 36 those qualities, 35 belong to your wife
and only one quality is what will sail you through – the ability to shut up!
Mrs: Kuch bhi!!!
Mr: I swear!
(with a serious face)
Mrs: (rolling
eyes) I think I’ve learnt – not to be scared of marriage. I mean, ever since
I’ve been married, I’ve wondered, why the hell was I scared of marriage when I
was unmarried? I mean, marriage is fun, marriage is beautiful, of course it means
you have to be (comparatively) more responsible, but in no way is it the devil
it is made out to be. I think that also comes from being married to the right
person. May be. But overall, it is a wonderful relationship. And marriage is
not just a legal document, but it is a feeling inside. You aren’t truly married
to each other unless you feel that sense of partnership within yourselves.
Mr: I think my
philosophical sense has finally rubbed onto you!! (Waiting for the transfer of
logical sense.. Alas!! It’s the dream of every husband :P)
New things you’ve learnt
about each other
Mr: Just like all
the ladies, even my wife is a pretty simple person. In fact, she’s an open
book. A book in which a new chapter is published each day. So I try to keep up
with the pace of my reading.
Mrs: Other than
how sexy he looks working out at the gym? Unfortunately, he has been plagued
with
a leg injury ever
since we got married, so he was unable to undertake any kind of
gymming/sports. But now that he is better, he is back to
the irons and it
is so inspiring to see him working and learn from him!
Quirks
Mr: I am lucky
that she is not quirky at all. Except for some reason that she totally disdains
Google maps.
Mrs: GPS, Yes,
for some reason, I just can’t read GPS correctly, ever! It stresses me
out. Btw, do you know he sleeps wearing with
his ancient Casio G-Shock wrist watch? Like I haven’t seen him without it even once in
these two years?
Annoying Habits
Mr: She does not
take care of her health.
Mrs: The amount
of time he spends at work!
But as my friends living
away from their husband
have made me realize, I am so grateful at least I get to live with him now - a
luxury in the Army.
What Do You Fight
About
Mr: We seldom
fight. And like most of the guys, I do not keep a record of when and why we
fought. Life is too short to be wasting your precious time keeping a track of
bad or unhealthy memories.
Mrs: You would be
surprised to know that we rarely ever fight at home. In fact, I do not remember
the last
time we fought or argued over something. May be also because we are
very transparent with each other. It is always having chats or discussions
about any issues we may have. But we do banter when we are at other people’s
place which makes them wonder if we fight all the time! Hahaha!
Special Things About Your
partner
Mr: She’s a whole
package of special things! Every day is a beautiful experience if the first
thing in the morning is to be woken up to this beauty next to you! It’s special.
Mrs: He’s the
nicest human being you could ever find. He is always so kind and considerate
and always so cheerful – so necessary for a serious over-thinker like me! Also,
he never says no for anything, always encouraging me to be the best version of
myself, always supporting me if I want to try something new and always pushing
me to pursue my dreams. Also, he makes
the best morning tea :D
Tiny Traditions
Mr: The morning
tea is something that is as much as a sacred tradition for us. Irrespective of
who prepares the tea (usually me), we sit down at the dining table and
discuss various random things as well as plan for the day. This is the only
peaceful time we get together throughout the day.
We also love watching trailers of upcoming movies on YouTube
together – mainly my choice of superhero movies! We actually, rarely watch them
without each other and wait till both of us are free to do that.
Mrs: I always go
to drop him off at the airport/railway station when he’s travelling. People
around here find it funny/weird, but that is just a thing for us. Also, every
day, I’m at the door to see him off for work and I always open the door for him
when he’s home – it’s never the buddy (when he’s around), the maid or anyone
else. Those two times a day, he’s my topmost priority - work can wait.
Married Life After
Two Years
Mr: Feels like we
have known each other for a lifetime!!! Not in a negative way, though pun could
be intended, you never know :P
Mrs: It is easy,
it is fun, it is lots of good food and laughter. It is always being there for each other – We are united in our
success and also in our fuck ups.
Hope you enjoyed reading this. Let us know how your view of marriage changed after two years in the comment section below!! xoxo
