Hello all!
Hope you’re having a great week! I am SO excited to announce the start of a new series on the blog – ‘Wife in the
Army’ where I’d be interviewing some of the coolest Army wives around to get to
know their experiences, their quirks, their woes and moments of craziness in this awesome organization and I hope they help you, esp. the girlfriends
and new wives to learn more about this life!
I’m glad to start the series
with Anamika Nandedkar who writes the hilariously honest blog A Curious Army Wife, which
is one of my top favourites and which I religiously read every single word of, before marriage. You must too!
Here she shares about her roller coaster ride in the Army...
How did Army happen to you?
A common friend introduced us in school, years later, we
met again as he was looking for a partner for the NDA Ball. We met a couple of
years later and fell in love. Yeah, I know we are super slow. After three years
of courtship and thousands of blackmailing attempts from our parents, we got
married. And that's when Army happened.
What was your welcome prank?
I was told the new bride has to cook for all officers and
ladies in the Unit. After dinner, we were told that we have to spend the night
in a tent in the mess lawns. Every half an hour, the Unit band would play a
song near our tent. If they thought we won't sleep, they were in for a
surprise. Husband slept, I giggled, and the band members got tired and left. :)
Describe Anamika before and after Army happened to her.
I have changed many cities owing to my career in
journalism before marriage. I would dream of having a settled life, at least in
one city, after I got married. But Major Sa'ab's entry in my life meant I could
kiss that thought goodbye. Life in Army taught me to be ready for postings,
shiftings, bitching, learning, and bad news.
How did marrying into the Army impact your career?
Oops! Dukhati rag pe haath! I left my job in a leading
newspaper to move to the town where my husband was posted. Within 3 months,
we got posted to an even smaller town, where chances of me getting a decent job
were nil. It did pinch me that my career graph dipped drastically, but after
some months, I found other ways to earn. I discovered the new world of online
content writing and blogging — that's how the blog A Curious Army Wife was
born. I joined Tupperware to connect with women outside the cantonment, and
pestered my friends into buying stuff, haha. And when my husband's field
posting came, I went back to a big city to start working again, making up for
lost time. In short, I had to accept that I will have to compromise heavily
when it came to my career, and I was fine by that.
What do you love most about being an Army wife?
Life in Army gave me a chance to see firsthand how the
men and women in olive greens live and function. It has taken me to places I
never imagined I would go, and meet people from all regions of the country.
What do you dislike about being an Army wife?
One, that I am the second most important thing in my
man's life.
Two, the constant anxiety that comes with the role of
being married to a man who likes to play with guns.
How do you deal with periods of separation?
I am dealing with it right now, and working is the best way to keep yourself busy. I have realised that having too much time on hands makes one go paranoid in a long distance relationship. |
| Anamika and her amazing blog :) (Yes! That cover pic is really hers!!) |
Have you ever had to deal with difficult senior ladies? How did yo tackle it?
I've had my share (maybe less than others') of tussles
with senior officers' wives, stories that now make me chuckle. It's hard for
ladies in the Army to get along freely if the 'protocol' sword is dangling on
our heads all the time. Whenever I was genuinely at fault, I learned my lesson.
Other times, I learned a lesson about whom not to be like in life.
Your words of wisdom to survive the AWWA/Ladies Meets?
I don't have any experience of AWWA meets (how lucky am
I). As far as Ladies' Meets are concerned, go if you like it and don't go if
you hate it. It should be as simple as that. There is no such thing as “have
fun compulsorily”.
Which has been your favourite station yet and why?
Any station where I get to stay with my husband is my
favourite. Cheesy baatein aside, it's Dehradun! :D
Do you love wearing sarees (considering we have to wear
one too many)? What are your favourite ones?
I absolutely love wearing sarees and had a sizable
collection even before marriage. Even though we crib about it, it is one special
power we have that not many friends in civil can boast of – wearing a saree
flawlessly and carrying it off in style. Kanjeevarams are my all-time
favourites.
What is the ONE style rule an Army wife should never
forget?
An army wife's winter wardrobe should be complete — from
trendy coats, woolen blouses, sweats, scarves, socks, thermals, caps and
mittens — more out of the need for surviving the chilling winter parties than
anything else.
How different do you think your life would be if you were
married to a civilian?
I am a civilian, so my life would not have been different
than what it was previously. It is different because my husband is in the Army.
As long it is the same man, civil or Army doesn't matter to me (that's my age
talking, urghh). On second thoughts, maybe I would have been earning a lot more
had I stayed in the civil world and inhaled a lot more toxins in the big bad
cities.
What’s your advice to the girlfriends and new wives on
surviving life as an Army Wife?
If you're a girlfriend, then get your career sorted on
priority. If you're a new bride, observe, and learn. Learn the good things and
learn to identify what's unfair. Oh! And love your guy like crazy! :)
Thank you so much Anamika! For more of her wisdom
and humour, please visit her blog!
